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Judith Proctor ([personal profile] watervole) wrote2016-04-15 08:56 am

Plants and memories

 We dug up some hellibores from Molly's garden last week and they're now in our back garden.  They seem to be settling in, in spite of being transplanted while in flower.

Plants are good things to remember people by.  They need a degree of tlc to do well and the act of looking after them reminds you of the giver.

Molly and I shared a love of gardening - indeed, she helped to increase my own interest in the subject. Even in her eighties and nearly blind, she was still growing most of her own vegetables.  She's one of the reasons I have an allotment.

We've also adopted a little mini-rock garden of sedums in a shallow container.  It was made for her by my husband when he was a boy.  For half her life it reminded her of him, and now it will remind us of her.

She was a wonderfully pragmatic person. (I'm speaking in the past tense, even though she isn't technically dead yet.  I do not believe I will ever speak to her again.)

Entorien (my daughter-in-law) sums it up well in her description of her last meeting with Molly - http://entorien.livejournal.com/518028.html

Molly has no religious beliefs, she doesn't fear death and she wishes the doctors would let her get on with the business of dying.

She did the paperwork several years ago to donate her body to science and we've made sure all the doctors are aware of that.
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[personal profile] aralias 2016-04-15 05:55 pm (UTC)(link)
This is a lovely idea, particularly given where the rock garden came from.

[identity profile] vjezkova.livejournal.com 2016-04-15 07:01 pm (UTC)(link)
I agree, plants, flowers and trees as well as stones are like "memory banks" and one always turns to them gladly, thinking of people who had left...
Molly must be an interesting and special lady.